once in a lifetime…missed

In honor of St. Francis of Assisi, whose feast day is Oct. 4th, many area churches are holding animal blessing services this weekend.

Each year when that happens, I think about the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity I missed while on assignment in Minneapolis. Yes, I could have left my new young assistant in charge of our exhibit long enough to “run” to the Cathedral to experience the event. No, I didn’t…(Probably wouldn’t again. Duty before pleasure–a different generation are we.)

Conference attendees who took the time to participate, albeit as spectators, came back filled with wonder; bubbling with enthusiasm.  Never before had they witnessed anything like the procession into the Cathedral of all creatures large and small, winged, four-legged, two-legged pets–and not–unless someone actually has a pet elephant.

Pets provide such health-giving services for retirees. Truly, wherever they are–part of a special event today or not–God bless all the pets, their owners, and trainers. To our pets, God’s gift of companion-creatures, we owe a lot!

Have you had a special pet in your life?

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no time for blogging today…

Sorry… Just an read amazing study…Need to race right to kitchen, empty cupboards and get dishwashing–before husband awakens and beats me to it…Why? Read for yourself!

Happy suddzing!

What research study benefits has retirement given you an opportunity to enjoy?

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lockdown drills etc.

Once again the unspeakable happened on an American college campus.

As a former educator, don’t get me started on what I have seen and experienced with students’ mentally illnesses. (Pardon me if I’m rash judging the cause of yesterday’s brutal shootings.)

For today, I just wish to say that I commiserate with every educator who still has to live with the specter and reality of school violence, and the stress of monthly lockdown drills, imagining each time what their reactions would be if ever the lockdowns were, in fact, the real thing.

That reality happened once to me. Not that an active shooter was in the building, but that a robbery with multiple gunmen had taken place nearby, and we were subsequently locked down–although not knowing why or for how long.

It is a frightening experience. Fortunately, no classes were in the library at that time, which relieved the bulk of the lockdown physical and emotional burden.

Nevertheless, with a myriad of security procedures in place every day, all day, I would be surprised if any teacher could put far out of his or her mind that our schools are a place where they are responsible for the health, welfare, and safety of their students in ways that, in years prior, would have been unimaginable.

While there are many aspects of teaching that I sorely miss, the stress of potential school violence, constantly brought to mind by heightened security and lockdown drills is one I am happy to have left behind.

God bless the grieving families. God protect all teachers and their students.

How has your workplace changed in view of potential security breaches?

Concerning school violence. Yes! The phenomenon is complex, as well as grave. We who are older, who have lived and worked longer, what wisdom born of age and experience can we share with our law- and decision-makers?

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Today’s the day to celebrate our (older) age!

Today is the annual International Day of Older People.  Yes! Why not? Let us proudly claim our (older) age.

How can we give positive witness to this stage of life?

Please comment or Tweet your ideas to:

@bakrawiec

#RetiredLadyBoomerChat

#BlendedAgingChat

Here’s my idea:

  • Forget living out our middle-age fantasies expressed in Jenny Joseph’s “Warning” (the humorously irreverent poem that starts “When I am an old woman I shall wear purple”). Let us act dignified in public. (I fear we already get bad enough raps without spitting, drinking brandy, and pressing alarm bells…) What do you think??

 Thank you! If we don’t project a positive image of “Older People,” who will?

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Ready? Tomorrow’s the big day!

Tomorrow is the annual International Day of Older People.  Let us claim our glorious age.

How can we give positive witness to this stage of life?

Please comment, or Tweet your ideas to:

@bakrawiec

#RetiredLadyBoomerChat

#BlendedAgingChat

Here’s my idea:

  • Forget living out our middle-age fantasies expressed in Jenny Joseph’s “Warning” (the humorously irreverent poem that starts “When I am an old woman I shall wear purple”). Let us act dignified in public. (I fear we already get bad enough raps without spitting, drinking brandy, and pressing alarm bells…) What do you think??

 Thank you! If we don’t project a positive image of ourselves as “Older People,” who will?

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Fewer than 200 followers?

Continued request and reminder, please….

Having recently been honored to receive the “new blogger” Liebster Award, it is now my privilege and responsibility to nominate five to ten other bloggers for this distinction.

In order to be eligible for the Liebster Award, blogs must have fewer than two hundred followers.

If you are  a retiree who has started blogging–or if you are a seasoned blogger who knows such a new blogger–please leave a comment to this post or please Tweet @bakrawiec with a blog site url for nomination consideration.

Thank you so very much! Happy retiree blogging!

p.s. Remember–tomorrow is the International Day of Older People. Enjoy and congratulations!

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another Papal Mass…20 years earlier

Watching televised events of the current Holy Father’s trip to the United States triggered memories of the Papal Mass I was privileged to attend twenty years earlier, in 1995, celebrated in, what was then called, Giants Stadium.

What struck me in the hour(s) before the beginning of that outdoor Mass was the exuberance, persistence, and determination of a small group of young adults, seated together in one upper-level section of the stadium.

At a certain moment, well before the stadium even began filling, that group attempted to initiate a “wave.” For a time, their repeat attempts inspired no more than a handful of persons seated here and there in a few adjacent sections to join in.

Nevertheless, the core group persisted, from time to time, in attempting to energize their “wave” movement. As the stadium continued to fill, more people –scattered throughout the stadium, but still basically nearby the core group (the “instigators”), stood and waved.

…As embarrassed as I felt for core group, I also had a sense of admiration. Undaunted, they kept trying to lead–to generate a more powerful, fuller wave throughout the entire stadium. Never mind that it wasn’t working…

Then…amazingly!, when the entire stadium was full, but before any formal announcements or directions were given over the PA system, the persuasive, adamant body language finally, slowly culminated…more and more people joined in; more sections joined in. Then! The miracle happened. The entire cheering stadium, section after section, without exception, enthusiastically participated.

Goosebumps. Goosebumps were what I experienced…We were seated close to the end of the wave…I prayed the chain reaction would not be broken. It wasn’t. The wave came full circle–not once, but twice. Judging by their cheers and screams, the core group was jubilant–as were the rest of us.

What joy! What a sense of solidarity and celebration!

Why did the “wave,” the unrehearsed, spontaneous synchronized body language of more than sixty-five thousand individuals, waiting for Holy Mass to begin, finally happen?

Maybe people felt sorry for the small core group (as I had); maybe people were happy to have something to do, to fill the boredom, having waited so long to see the Mass celebration get underway; maybe people felt relieved to have an outlet to express their pent-up energy and anticipatory enthusiasm for the moment that the Holy Father would enter the stadium…

Who knows for sure what motivated the unity of action! …I surely cannot say definitively.

No matter. I like to think that what happened proves the truth of Margaret Mead’s statement:

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Admittedly, getting 65,00o strangers to agree to do the “wave” did not change the world…but it did convince me that what Ms. Mead said is true…the dedicated commitment of even a small core group can have a far-reaching impact. One day, a small group of young adults led the “wave”–another day–just imagine what they might accomplish!

Since St. John Paul II was such an outspoken champion of “young people,” as he called them, it seemed especially fitting that such a demonstration of the potency of youth to affect a change–albeit even such a seemingly inconsequential change as getting apathetic and/or simply shy/reluctant people to engage in the “wave”--would take place in a stadium filled with men, women, and children of all ages, filled with great anticipation at being at the Papal Mass for which he was the main celebrant.

Whenever I think back to that Papal Mass, I always recall, with renewed trust in the youth,  and with an appreciation for their enthusiastic belief in bringing about change–how a small group could motivate and inspire more than 65,000 people to do what they wanted. Witnessing and participating in that wave was a very hopeful, awesome sight and feeling.

Recalling what those young adults brought about that day, reminds me, too, that the power to influence is a sacred trust, one that needs to be exercised responsibly, with integrity. What those youth did to inject happiness and excitement to unify an entire outdoor congregation, a stadium of “spectators,” and help prepare them to be a community of participants in a Eucharistic Sacrifice of the Mass …to me, was nothing short of a Papal Mass miracle.

As a retired person, the wholehearted, enthusiastic commitment potential, which is a signature of American youth, has become–and continues to become–more important to me. Selfishly, I pray that among the “causes” and concerns our young people embrace will be a commitment to protect the elderly–thinking, perhaps, of protecting and providing for their own grandparents…(and me!)

Having seen and felt what a core group of committed young people accomplished on one Fall day at Giants Stadium, I have not one doubt that they can accomplish–for good–anything they set their minds and hearts to doing.

What causes and concerns do you hope young people will commit to doing?

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disposable…

How blessed we are to have access to so many holy shrines in this country, especially in the Philadelphia area where the Holy Father spent the grande finale of his United States visit. (Dare I refer to it as a pilgrimage?)

One of those Philadelphia area sites I have enjoyed “visiting”—pilgrimaging to—though only twice—is the National Shrine of St. Katharine Drexel.

Reflecting on the Holy Father’s call to turn away from our selfishly expedient inclinations to be a disposable culture, I was thinking about the witness of the foundress of the Sisters of the Blessed Sacrament, whom the Pope spoke about in his Mass at Sts. Peter and Paul Cathedral: St. Katharine Drexel.

It struck me that–had it been on the itinerary–the Pope would have appreciated seeing St. Katharine Drexel’s writing implements, a small collection of which are on display at the shrine. Not wanting to waste any resources, including pencils, this holy woman used pencils that made the “golf score card” pencils look long by comparison. (“Nibs” is what comes to mind to describe what was left of those pencils that she still was using.)

As someone who dreamed of teaching on a Native American Indian Reservation (but never did), I felt especially drawn to this woman of God who did act on her concerns for the education, secular and spiritual, of Native and African- American children.

Mostly, though, I love how much she loved Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament. She loved Him enough to make what seems to be an extravagant (and to some—a foolish) disposal; that of her disposable (inherited) income, using all the wealth she had, not to live the life of a fashionable Philadelphia socialite, but to use it for the good of others.

St. Katharine Drexel, teach us to dispose the things that we should dispose of—hatred, fear, greed, unforgiveness, jealousy—all the capital sins. Teach us to put ourselves, our gifts, our talents, our money resources, perhaps not as radically as you did, but all we have that is possible, at the service of the Lord…

One fruit of retirement, I hope, will be to dispose of things that need to be disposed of, and to be more conscious of not disposing things that need to be respected as gifts..little things and big things–like relationships, starting with my relationship with God…

What might you dispose, or not dispose, of?

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Pope’s gift from US

As much as I love the Litany of the Saints, sung during special Masses, such as Masses of Canonization and Priestly Ordination, I took special enjoyment and pride listening to the Litany during the Papal Mass in which Fr. Serra was canonized.

How wonderful it was to hear the names of American Saints, including female Saints like Kateri Tekakwitha, Katherine Drexel, Frances Cabrini, Rose Philippine Duchesne, and Elizabeth Ann Seton–all of whom I have special devotion to.

Since this month marks the fortieth anniversary of the canonization of the first American-born Saint, Elizabeth Ann Seton, it was a special honor for her “Daughters of Charity” to have the original key to their foundress’ house presented by the President to the Pope, as an official gift from the people of the United States.

“Mother Seton,” as she was called, was a wife, mother, teacher, and foundress of a religious order of women who have served as teachers and nurses.  Born in 1774, Elizabeth Ann Seton, as a widowed mother of five children and convert to Catholicism, is credited with starting the U.S. Catholic school system.

Interestingly, one of her Daughters of Charity, Sr. Miriam Teresa, a young teacher who died in 1927, was beatified last year. If she is canonized, she will become the second U.S.-born Saint.

The Seton family motto was “Hazard Zet Forward,” another fitting retirement goal. No matter what the obstacles: onward!

What are some retirement obstacles you need to push through?

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Claiming w/Speaker Boehner a discernment blessing

As a woman of the Catholic faith, I have been greatly blessed by having been schooled in Jesuit spirituality. For six years, I was ministered to most powerfully by an amazing group of Jesuits during women’s retreats. Even more, for four years, I had the Grace, along with other laypersons, to participate in the Jesuits’ weekday community Masses at the same retreat house, being privy to homilies and response-reflections by sometimes as many as eight Jesuits at a time. What a spiritual education!

Now, with that Jesuit spirituality lens, as one who now is now twenty-six days into retirement, I was deeply inspired and affirmed by a particular “Jesuit-sounding” comment made by House Speaker John Boehner regarding his resignation-conscience-decision—akin, I think, to my retirement-conscience-decision.

What I heard in the brief televised comment that so caught my attention was a decision that transcended the purely human considerations of economics and emotions. What I heard, instead, in conformity with the core of Jesuit spirituality, was a decision that was the fruit of prayerful discernment. In the Jesuit manner of discerning, then, Speaker Boehner’s decision was a matter of conscience in terms of his relationship with his God, himself, and others.

Having been schooled in Jesuit spirituality, I understood exactly what Speaker Boehner meant when he said he had prayed, and he believed that in good conscience he was resigning for the right reasons, at the right time, and, therefore, he knows that as a result, right things will result from his decision.

Here’s why Speaker Boehner’s comment so resonated with me–so affirmed the decision I had made to retire. Coming from the same Catholic faith-Jesuit spirituality, I prayed over my resignation-for-retirement purposes decision, with a desire to discern God’s Will.

Why the need to pray? As the Holy Father said, work is dignifying; for Catholics, it’s a vocation to be taken seriously.  AMDG (Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam –All for the greater honor and glory of God): that is the Jesuit motto. Doing one’s work well is a serious responsibility and commitment before God… In that context, imagine the seriousness of deciding not to work—to resign; to retire. Such a decision cannot be made lightly–or for the “wrong” reasons.

Having struggled in conscience with the decision to retire… Having prayed to know God’s Will–to receive His blessing… Having believed that I was retiring at the right time for the right reasons…I confidently and humbly claim for myself the same blessing Speaker Boehner trusted would be his: right things now will follow; good things will happen.

I pray that all the Jesuits, now at home with the Lord, to whom I am so indebted for bringing the Gospel alive for me, will intercede for me—for all of us, including Speaker Boehner–who take as seriously a matter of conscience the decision not to continue to work, as we took the decision to work.

AMDG–Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam –All for the greater honor and glory of God!  May our retirement—our different kind of work for God, self, and others; our laying down or putting aside the work we have done—the working and the leaving done in good conscience, after prayerful discernment of the Will of God for our lives—lead to good consequences. May our retirements and resignations, by God’s Grace, turn out all right.

With gratitude to Speaker Boehner for being instrumental in bringing the Pope to speak to our elected representatives, I am grateful, too, for the Speaker’s sharing his belief that having resigned for right reasons, “right things will happen.”

I claim that blessing of which Speaker Boehner spoke. I claim it for myself—for all of us, who have taken our resignations seriously, in good conscience. AMDG. And now, to quote the Holy Father, citing the motto of the Franciscan Friar St. Serra: “Siempre adelante! Keep moving forward!”

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